French fashion designer and businesswoman Coco Chanel once said, “In order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different”. Lust and desires between and beyond the sheets have this funny way of fading. There isn’t enough time in the day for yourself, much less your partner. We get that, and sometimes you feel like you’re being spread thin.
But rekindling the romance between lovebirds should be high on your to-do list. After all, it might make a difference in brightening your cloudy day. So, ditch the excuses of headaches, work woes, fatigue, protocol, and other responsibilities. Put a stop to the deserted dry spell, and press play on the foreplay, et al. Here are a few ways you could bring sexy back.
SPARK AN INTEREST IN EACH OTHER
Nothing is sexier than a partner who takes an interest in his or her significant other’s life. You don’t necessarily have to be able to relate to a particular plight, but you can show your support and provide a shoulder to lean on. This will definitely pay off in sultry sessions bed, bath, and beyond.
BEGIN FOREPLAY BEFORE GAME TIME
Who says foreplay has to start right before game time? Pull out your playbook, get that long ruler, and instruct your one-woman team on ways to get the iron striking while it’s hot! Making secret calls and sending steamy texts can have you scoring goals before warm-up.
RETURN TO DATE NIGHTS
This practice tends to be placed on the back burner once couples get too comfortable. It does, however, beat the fizzle and brings a fiery sizzle to jumping back in the sack. Set ground rules for the dates: no work talk, nothing on family or children. Focus on individual goals, dreams, and fantasies. Be debonair, and show her that chivalry is not dead. Taunt and tease him with your sexiest attire. And enjoy each other’s company.
COUPLE UP ACTIVITIES
Sometimes you both need to engage in activities that are either something old or something new to get rid of your something blue. A cooking class, perhaps? You could both attend a paint-and-sip. Or maybe you both used to go out dancing. Find a party, and rent that tile all night long. The possibilities are endless. Make a list, and explore coupled-up activities together.
Engage the sense of smell. You can approach this in two ways. Either you revisit the perfume or cologne store and stock up scents that channel or evoke the beast waiting to be unleashed, or you escape to the essential oils route, igniting awakened feelings of euphoria.
TAP INTO YOUR INNER SEXY
Instead of playing the blame game, maybe you need to look in the mirror. The reason your love life has probably been lacklustre or extinct by nature is because, simply put, you’re not feeling yourself. Now, you can’t love others if you don’t love yourself, so rediscover your secret to being happy and tap into your inner sexy.
KNOW AND SPEAK THE LANGUAGE
So many of us have yet to discover our own love language. Not knowing this information can truly hinder the romantic process because you might be clueless of your heart’s desire. If it is that you are not aware of your lover’s language, then make an activity out of it: do the quiz, and share the results. And if you do know your partner’s language, might we suggest becoming bilingual? Learning his or her love language and communicating in that regard might be the key to unlocking the emotional safe.
(RE)CREATE YOUR LOVE BUBBLE
This could be the hardest yet boldest step you could ever take. Remember those days when it was “… only you and me, we were young and wild and free”? Well, (re)create that by forming a love bubble for just two. This means unplugging from the outside world: no children, other family members, friends, work, social media, no distractions whatsoever. Take that baecation you’ve always wanted, with just the two of you unearthing pure passion and carnal desires for each other.
Story by Krysta Anderson