Mother or Wife?

Jessica Harrison
Jessica Harrison

October 28, 2019

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Throughout the years of a man’s life, he forms different relationships with women. Usually after making a life for himself, the goal is to settle down and start a family. Once that family has started, the lines of priority may or may not change. Flair took the opportunity to ask a few millennial men the question of who comes first on their priority list; mom or wife.

Here’s what they had to say: 

Kavan A: The scripture talks about leaving your parents behind and cleaving to your husband. We have now become a family, and in order for that family unit to be successful we will have to put everything behind and focus on each other. In Ephesians, the Bible also says that husbands should love their wife as Christ loves the church. It went on to say that we are now one and that no man hateth his own body. So, if you view your wife as a part of your body, you ensure that nothing comes between that. It doesn’t mean that you don’t love your mother, but look out for your wife first. In order for a family to work, you need to be each other’s top priority.

Jonevies H: The wife should be priority. Yes, your mother brought you into the world and ensured that you were raised properly, but I’m sure that at some point she knew that she had to release you into the world to be your own man and to take on your own responsibilities. A part of these responsibilities is your wife. The vows you make when you are are getting married means that you’re committing to doing life with this person. Your mother set you up to function and God designed it in a way where you have help to function. That help being your wife.

Tajay F: Definitely the wife.

Leighton N: People have different relationships with their mothers. Some good and some bad. I know the greatness my mother has done and what she has sacrificed for me, she would easily come first. No disrespect to the wife and all she has done to complete me, but mother is first.

Jamar H: I think a mother should come first in a man’s life. His mom is the one that nurtured him, fed him and gave him training. There is a bond which exists between a mother and her son that will never be broken. His mother is the one who set the foundation for him to become the man he is today. The man that made his wife fall in love with him.

Michael L: I believe that the wife should come first, as she’s the one I’ve chosen to spend the rest of my life with, while never neglecting the advice of the mother. At the end of the day, the mother will always be there and that love will never go away,  but if you have chosen to spend your life with another, then that person should be the priority.

Ansel C: So, mostly anything related to the wife and my personal relationship it would be the wife, but chances are, in a fire it’ll be my mother.

Adrian S: My existence wouldn’t be possible if it wasn’t for my mother. My wife and I are one, and yes, we should be bonded for life. However, logically thinking, situations can cause her to not be my wife anymore. No matter what you and your mother go through, whether or not we communicate for the rest of our lives, she’ll always be my mother, and I think that should count for something.

Ainsley S: The wife, since he no longer lives with his mother. His wife is the main priority.

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Jessica Harrison


Jessica Harrison

Just six months in, Jessica Harrison is the newest member of the Flair team but, in that short time, she has surely been cemented in everyone’s mind as a woman who is full of life, expression, and vibrance. One who is filled with unapologetic flair and PIZAZZ and discovering and marching to her own beat.

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