Nah I am one of those guys (and that’s not good)

Daviot Kelly
Daviot Kelly

June 20, 2022

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“We are flawed creatures, all of us. Some of us think that means we should fix our flaws. But get rid of my flaws and there would be no one left.” ― Sarah Vowell from Take the Cannoli

Introspection is a helluva thing.

Last week while travelling to work, I came to a stop light, forgetting that the filter light would come on next. Got distracted by what I thought was a car alarm going off beside me. Eventually looked up and realised that, yes, the filter light was there, and the ‘alarm’ was actually the very irate SUV driver behind me. So I moved off, and at the first chance he got, he zoomed past in his white Korean-manufactured SUV. By the way, I have no idea if this was a man or woman. I just assumed it was a guy because let’s face it, we can be the more unnecessarily aggressive. So anyway, I put my hand out the window and gave a sarcastic thumbs up. Don’t even know if the person saw me.

The point is, I was angry over nothing. The driver did nothing wrong (impatience isn’t a crime) and I was not paying attention. So I had zero legs to stand on. And in a way, that ticked me off worse. Because, even in this most mundane of interactions, I felt like I had ‘lost’. And I hate to lose. I spent approximately the next 10 minutes of my journey hoping to see the SUV again. But what exactly was my plan? Didn’t have one. I just had to feel like I was ‘still in the game’, even though this was not even remotely a contest. But just the fact that I felt this upset is an issue that I need to address. Simply put, fragile egos and quick fuses do not mix. And I suspect that’s what causes half of the issues that we have as a society. Some a wi, note that I include myself, too dark!

It was lucky for me that I didn’t actually see the SUV again, because, knowing me, I would have made a complete hash of it (at best) or got into trouble (at worst). So if the ‘dude’ had (rightly) asked, ‘Who taught you how to drive?’ I may have responded ‘Your wife, but she wasn’t very good.’ So if he were to then ram me with his car, could you really blame him? Knowing my luck, he would be a licensed firearm holder too, and you know how that can go.

I wonder how many of the squabbles we hear about on television and see on social media started like this? I wonder what would have been the outcome of these tragic incidents if one or more persons had simply brushed it off. Imagine what we could accomplish if more of us simply took a breath, admit our faults/wrongs, and move on. It can’t hurt, can it? So wherever you are Mr/Ms/Mrs SUV person, I guess I apologise. Hey, don’t judge me, I’m a work in progress.

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Photo by Carlos Alberto Gómez Iñiguez on Unsplash.

Daviot Kelly


Daviot Kelly

Daviot Kelly describes mumbling and fumbling as two of his greatest obstacles in life, but not when it comes to penning his weekly column, Kelly’s World. A wizard with the pen, Kelly has been sharing his wit and unique perspective with the Flair since 2006.

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