Tamiann Young’s Mommy Diaries

Stephanie Lyew

May 4, 2022

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It’s a Sunday evening, the day before school, but Tamiann Young is headed to the Freedom Skate Park in Bull Bay with her children.

“We do the most random things as a family,” she tells Flair. “The whole beauty of it is that even if we arrive a little late, the persons who operate the skate park will accommodate us.”

Young, 39, a driven career woman, said that quick, spontaneous getaways and road trips are fundamental for the type of environment she wants to foster, knowing also, that for her, finding time in-between entrepreneurship and her roles as a marketing strategist, brand coach, co-host of a TV show and artiste manager can be a challenge.

“It is an activity-centred home and when we can, we do what we can as a family – after this we’ll head over to Wickie Wackie Beach by the bonfire, to make TikTok videos – I’m happy that’s just us,” she shared.

The Young family, (from left) Marki, Tsehai, Shiloh-Sarai, Malikie and Tamiann, find that enjoying the sun, sea and sand together make them feel at home.

She is a mother to three: her daughters Shiloh-Sarai – 13 and Tsehai – 15 and stepson Malikie – 18, who she calls her “bonus child” and her first hands-on experience at parenting, having been made part of his life when he was a toddler, Young said. But she also learnt that with each child, she would have to adjust her approach to raising them.

“Oftentimes, I find that persons trying to work out my age when I introduce Malikie and they hear his age. I rarely say that he is my stepson … he is my son and has taught me a lot. I’m that girl who wanted children so badly, I’d stuff the pillow under my blouse and pretend I had a belly and welcomed the idea of taking on the role as godmother to the children of persons within my social circle,” she said.

Young expressed that she may have grasped the concept of parenthood but nothing could have completely prepared her to take on the challenges that accompany mothering a child and dealing with the different personalities and capabilities including decoding her daughters’ dyslexia.

“When Tsehai was in kindergarten, I was doing some work with her and she was doing the reversal (reversing letters). With Shiloh, I found out at a later time. I realised I was getting frustrated but something had to be done. They both had to do psychological assessments. The thing is they learn differently from other children and sometimes parents and teachers don’t figure it out until they’re in a space with other children.” Young opened up about when she discovered her daughters were dyslexic. “I am careful with how vulnerable I get with sharing this, even though my daughters know I speak about it, that’s the relationship of trust I have with them.”

She explained that they are at the creative end of the spectrum and into the arts. Tsehai’s artwork can be seen in the Norman Manley International Airport and Shiloh-Sarai was involved in gymnastics before having an accident where she broke both wrists and did surgery in December – another hurdle they have learnt to jump over and move on.

Tamiann Young credits her husband Marki Young for being an anchor when she’s needed it.

“What we are, as humans, are very good actors and actresses. Our children will hide; they learn quickly how to hide their challenges. They also hide how they are feeling, how much they comprehend and it’s the same for adults, I’m guilty of doing that,” she said. “In the same breath, I’ve also learnt a lot from my children because I had to learn children who show up in the world in a different way and we like to put labels on children but we need to understand those labels are for clinical reasons. We’re all here to colour our world and each child’s purpose is wrapped up in them and so, I learnt to create a space for them to win.”

A natural curator, Young, has also helped other mothers by chronicling her experience. When she was expecting Tsehai, she was 23 and in the height of her corporate career, “trying to navigate pregnancy”, and being the proverbial class clown, she would always make light of the changes whether emotionally or physically “things like struggling through breastfeeding, trust me, if it were up to my children I’d still be breastfeeding”. And these conversations gave birth to Young Mummy Diaries which expanded into events such as the Muminar, usually held in November for Parents’ Month and the Mummy Mingle.

“We are the ones who only have three months maternity leave, most times receiving a lower pay scale than a male, and many single-parented homes are led by mothers, who are usually expected to be nurturers. But for a woman to nurture, she has to be in a good place to extend herself to three, two, or even if it’s only one other human being,” she said.

“The Muminar returns this year, and Mummy Mingle as well, which happens on Friday, May 6, and these are about curating and creating experiences for our mothers to share and we do include our men. There are many of us, women, who have used their reality to overcome and who, I’ve been involved to share their authentic experiences to show that there is a safe place to share, network and find ways together to cope because I believe the beginning of healing a nation, is by healing our mothers,” Young concluded.

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