What men find attractive in a woman

Krysta Anderson
Krysta Anderson

October 28, 2021

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Philosopher and writer Alain de Botton has three ingredients for love: care, admiration and desire, and holds true to the belief that the aspects we find desirable in our partners speak of what we admire, but do not have secure possession of, in ourselves. We asked six men what they found most attractive in a woman.

“I love a woman’s work ethic. Her work ethic tells me how far they are willing to sacrifice to make something happen. And that will translate into loyalty and consistency in our relationship. If for some reason she falls off because she ‘caah bother’, it tells me that she isn’t willing to be committed to something that benefits her; so how will she be committed to something that benefits us?”

– Chad Smith, 25, single

“Her personality, confidence and the way she carries herself are what really attracts me. It’s always great when she is loving and caring. Looks and assets don’t attract me at all. I don’t care how pretty or unpretty she is, if she doesn’t have a personality that I gravitate to, I will never approach her.”

– Andre Murray, 30, in a relationship

“I go for what my eyes can see first, until she speaks. So outside of a nice butt and pretty face, I find that I am very attracted to a woman who can hold a very decent and mature conversation. PS: I don’t like wigs, nails or make-up. “

– Kevon Harris, 30, married

“I’m really attracted to a woman’s soul, But because that’s not always readily seen, since some women will take a while to open up and trust a man, then I will be drawn to her personality and her beauty.”

– Tarik Scott, 35, single

“Besides physical attraction and beauty, personally I find it extremely attractive when a woman has a good sense of humour. Your relationship should not be so serious at all times. You should be able to crack a little joke here and there, and laugh about silly things together. Another thing that I find attractive is intelligence. A female must be able to have a sustainable conversation with anyone, in any crowd, and among peers. But what is at the top of the list for me is when a woman has self-confidence or high self-esteem. Nothing is more attractive than when a woman doesn’t need approval or the opinion of others to know that she is amazing and looks good, both inside and out.”

– Rushane Wisdom, 27, married

“The things I find attractive in a woman are mindset and outlook, faith in God, mindfulness, ambition, as well as how well she takes care of or carries herself; not just nails and hair, natural beauty. Make-up is an accessory, not a requirement.”

– Carlyle Grant, 27, single

Photo by Kevar Whilby on Unsplash.


Krysta Anderson


Krysta Anderson

Tackles sex and relationships with honesty and openness. For months, she took readers on a journey of self-exploration with personal dating column 'Single but Iffy to Mingle'. Now she's ready for an even bigger adventure.

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