What small things make you feel loved by your partner?

Krysta Anderson
Krysta Anderson

May 13, 2021

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“Enjoy the little things in life, for one day you may look back and realise they were the big things,” said author Robert Brault. This week, Flair challenged a few women to share the little things their male counterparts do for them that make them feel appreciated. Here are the loving testimonials.


When Rochelle Hayles started dating her husband, he would always say, “Love you, bye,” before hanging up the phone. One day, he asked if she knew the reason for his closing remark. Clueless, she said, “No,” and so he enlightened her. “He told me that because we were in a long-distance relationship, he wasn’t sure what would happen after we spoke. And he always wanted me to know that he loved me.” Pretty soon, that refrain became a farewell statement for both parties whenever they ended a call. “I absolutely love it! Whenever we are stressed and having a bad day, which is often, it stands as a sweet reminder that our love is there and it will carry us through,” she added.


Davida-Mae Chambers is thrilled that after eight years of being with her significant other, he still takes the time out to date. The two have never stopped dating, even though they are married. “We still take random ice cream walks, and we try to go to watch a movie once a month, prior to COVID, like we did when we were back in high school.” Additionally, he will send her videos attempting to serenade her with one of their songs. This, she says, always lifts her spirits and makes her day. “What’s really impressive to me is, truthfully, how naturally these and other little things come to him and his zero hesitation to still do them years later. I don’t have to ever say, ‘Hey, remember when we used to do xyz,’ because he understands what the significant things mean to me,” she revealed.


Christine Thomas knew the moment that she met her husband that he would be taking care of her. From making her breakfast to shipping off surprise gifts to her to celebrate her scholastic achievements, she continues to be floored by his thoughtfulness. “Putting my slippers on my feet, before they touch the ground, when I’m about to get out of bed, because he knows I don’t walk barefooted, is something that definitely stood out for me.” She continued, “These acts are great, because it’s so simple; he remembers and just does it, even if I don’t need him to. He does it because he wants to, and it’s sweet every time.”


Kimberly Goodall never saw love coming, but she was happy to open that door to new and enchanting possibilities. “He shows up, both physically and emotionally,” she declared when highlighting her boyfriend. Whether it means carrying food or helping her with her business on a busy day, or just sitting by her side when she is emotionally exhausted, makes such a huge impact. “He prays with me, and for me. He buys me gifts randomly. Some of these really are about my love language — acts of service and gifts,” she said.


Monikie Lawrence is appreciative that her husband will do whatever he can to provide [for] and make their family comfortable. “He just reupholstered two couches last weekend, and that blew my mind. He always finds a way for us to try to live the way we want, but within our means, which I am no good at, so God bless him.”


Tamara Henry confessed that her beloved has a long list of little things that continually impresses her. She was able to narrow it down to the top five. Once he puts his culinary skills on display, Henry is dismissed from the kitchen so she can rest and be treated to fine cuisine. A fresh [haircut] is always modelled, and her input on how it looks is always requested and valued. “This is cliché, but it gets me every time. When he gets ready for work, he puts on his attire and cologne and kisses me goodbye, especially because I work from home a lot. Sometimes he just looks at me and smiles for no reason at all. And that alone just impresses me.” And when she thinks it can’t get any better, he pops random gifts into the mix. “Whenever he picks me up from work, there’s always a random gift. And whew, I’m always trying to outdo him. It could be my favourite chocolate, a beauty product I needed, something for my YouTube channel, anything that he knows I like or need.”

What small things make you feel loved by your partner? Let us know in the comments below.


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Krysta Anderson


Krysta Anderson

Tackles sex and relationships with honesty and openness. For months, she took readers on a journey of self-exploration with personal dating column 'Single but Iffy to Mingle'. Now she's ready for an even bigger adventure.

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